Past Event

Is Monogamy in Our Nature?

Café Society will meet at Ron’s Barber Shop on Friday, September 10.

Special guest, Yasmin Nair will help kick-off the conversation at Ron’s Barber Shop.

From “Monogamy unnatural for our sexy species” by Christopher Ryan at CNN.

“Couples who turn to a therapist for guidance through the inevitable minefields of marriage are likely to receive the confusing message that long-term pair bonding comes naturally to our species, but marriage is still a lot of work.  This is a problem because there is no reason to believe monogamy comes naturally to human beings. In fact, for millions of years, evolutionary forces have cultivated human libido to the point where ours is arguably the most sexual species on Earth.”

Questions for Consideration:  Why is monogamy considered natural for our species? How is humanity different from or the same as the rest of the animal kingdom with respect to sexual practices? What do these differences or similarities say about the naturalness of monogamy? What do you think about relationships that are not monogamous – where partners can have multiple intimate or casual partners? Is monogamy the natural order of things? Or is it possible that other political, social and cultural factors play a role in determining human sexual behavior?

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More about Yasmin Nair 

Yasmin Nair is a writer, activist, academic, and commentator from Uptown, Chicago.  Her work has appeared in publications like GLQ, make/shift, The Bilerico Project, Windy City Times, Bitch, Maximum Rock’n’Roll, and No More Potlucks.  She is part of the editorial collective Against Equality; its first book, Against Equality: Queer Critiques of Gay Marriage, will be published this month. She is also a member of the Chicago grassroots organization Gender JUST (Justice United for Societal Transformation). Nair’s work is archived at

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